The Power Of Character

When you have good or positive character, you act in a manner that is honorable, courageous, compassionate and ethical. It results in being viewed with respect, overcoming the difficult and feeling good about yourself. But achieving that goal can be a challenge due to outside forces and your own destructive attitudes.


Your character is based on the opinion of others, as well as your own view. When you have a reputation of having good character, people tend to treat you with respect, trust and admiration. This increases your esteem and self-respect, as well as allows you to prosper. Having good character is important to us all in maintaining a good position in society and a favorable opinion of yourself. A bad reputation can even affect your confidence and relationship with others.

Remembering that rapport is essentially about having the capacity to connect with others person to person and in doing so making others feel emotionally SAFE. When people feel safe with us they are then more likely to allow dialogue to unfold, which again reinforces our level likeability with them. It's also through our efforts at rapport that people learn who we are as a person, our values and what we represent.


Character traits that resonate strongly with credibility, integrity, fairness and trustworthiness form very strong pillars of persuasion and tend to attract people to our messages or conversely make it more difficult for them to reject. Sometimes your prowess with words will get you only so far on their own. 


We often find that people who are good persuaders are also usually keen observers of body language and behaviour. They have an innate ability to accurately read and interpret meaning from body language and in doing so can then effectively align their own body language signals with the needs, concerns and mood of others.


If you feel you want to develop this capability to a deeper level, then a good exercise to try next time you're having a conversation with someone is to closely observe how the other person is responding non- verbally to what it is that you are saying i.e. watch their facial expression...look for any reaction / emotions either positive or negative, examine their posture and physical gestures / actions. This will consciously raise your own sense of awareness as to how others are feeling and it will give you a far greater insight into understanding them and their needs.

Reprogramming Your Emotion

So, we all have parts of ourselves that we would like to change, be it our motivation, our potential in careers, depth in relationships, etc etc; how do we reprogram our emotions in order to start living up to what we can be? Although this task may seem intimidating since many of us do not even realize why we do what we do to self sabotage in the first place, it is certainly not impossible to do so.

1. Start by becoming more aware of your actions, reactions, etc. By introducing yourself to the problem, you can begin to start addressing it in a constructive and demonstrative way.
2. Evaluate the possible origins of your actions, reactions, etc. By reminding yourself of what influential factors have shaped your emotions and thereby your thoughts, you can start to dispel any negative assumptions you once held, and replace them with more positive ones.
3. Start pro actively replacing your negative emotions with positive ones. Determine how you would like to feel and react, and be aware that you have the power at any given time to understand the emotion you are feeling and change that thought in order to bring forth a more powerful positive emotion.
4. Get rid of negative influences. If you have people or factors in your life that are contributing to your negative thought patterns and emotions, release them.

In conclusion remember one thing, when all is said and done, irrespective of the circumstances you always have a choice. Maybe not a choice in what has actually happened but a choice in how you react to what has happened. Choose as much as possible to see the good in any situation and the emotions those thoughts bring forth will help you through most hardships.

The Power of Emosion

Emotion based thought.

What exactly is emotion based thought and how does it affect us as individuals? Emotion based thought is our individual perspectives or our personal take on any situation as it happens or indeed before it happens, though few of us recognize it for just that. We all have a set of emotions, feelings, and reactions to the life factors around us. Ever noticed how some people react differently to different experiences, problems, and actions in their lives? For example, you get turned down for a raise you were expecting. How do you react? Well that will depend on the emotion that the rejection stirs within you and that emotion will be triggered by your true thoughts on that rejection. 


The answer is simple, different people react differently to each situation that turns up in their life and as a consequence their emotions will be equally different. Your tendencies toward anger, fear, sadness, etc, how these are perpetuated, where they originated, and the differing values of each make you the individual you are. Simply put, different situations in life affect you differently from your peers. These emotional thoughts or perspectives color every occurrence, action, and reaction in your life to come. They determine what career you will go after, what types of relationships you will have, and how far you will go to achieve your short and long term goals. In short your emotion based thoughts will, over a period of time, determine just how happy and contented your life is, so take some time to study them.